" I Was A Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids"

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Okay Mommies!
I am currently reading a book right now called "I was a really good mom before I had kids" By: Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile. This is a MUST READ! The subtitle says, "reinventing modern motherhood," and this book does just that.
It first addresses the common daily issues that being mother brings upon a women. From getting time alone to grocery shop to trying to have a simple phone conversation. The best part about this book is how real it is when tackling these issues. They lay it all our there for you when they basically admit that as mothers we say we are happy because we feel like we are SUPPOSED to be happy. When in reality, this role as "mommy" and "wife" aren't the fairy tale we imagined them to be. By reading this book, it relieves you a lot to realize that IT'S OKAY TO ADMIT THAT THIS ISN'T ALWAYS FUN!
an excerpt:
" As we talked, our kids tattooed one another with permanent markers and played in the dog-food bowl. Whatever-it really didn't matter. We discussed our days, and within ten minutes we'd laughed, cried, whined about our husbands, wondered what happened to our sex drives, snapped at the kids, wished we had passions, and questioned why we sometimes felt like bad moms. Were you a bad mom if you screamed at a four-year-old for getting up twelve times in one night? Were you a good mom if you stayed up late baking fifty cupcakes for the next day's ballet recital? Would passing off store-bought cupcakes as homemade really be a terrible offense?"
This along with 172 other pages full of humorous writings make up this awesome book, that could easily be considered, " The REALISTIC mother's handbook."
This book is the PERFECT read when you feel like you have a lot of expectations to meet and you feel as though you are failing at them all.... ie. cleaning the house, bed time routine for the baby, cooking dinner, and some how managing to be nice to your husband/boyfriend/ fiance ( at least nice enough not to run him off). When balancing life becomes just another thing on your to do list, forget the dishes and the laundry and pick up this book. You will feel like a million buck; or at least until someone yells, "MOOOOOOM!"

The U Turn

Tuesday, June 22, 2010


Okay, so today was a big day. After months and months of confussion with me and Caroline's Dad, Tyler... today we finally had our court hearing. Things went fine. The court is the court ( I would be fine if I NEVER had to go to one again). haha. But bigger than the court hearing, we all talked and came to the agreement that if we can all communicate and get along...everyone will be happier and we will both be better parents to Caroline. Now that we are past our OWN issues with eachother, my hope is that we can focuss on raising her and be " Friends" for the sake of parenting.

I have been praying for God to show me his plan for this situation, and that his will be done. While I will NEVER know exactly how things will turn out. The peace I have in the Lord right now is a sign to me that I'm continuing to walk down his path. The most exciting part is getting to wait and see all of the amazing things that God has in store for all of our lives. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest because things are what they are and there isn't a lot left for interpratation or wondering.

I Feel So Blessed. Caroline will always be my girl.

Advice for any parents going through a tough situation either with the parent or lack there of.... trust in the Lord. He really is the prince of peace and some things in our lives are beyond our understanding. I heard in a sermon on sunday that sometimes a parent will be on the other side of the street from the child and the parent will see a car coming and because it see's something the child doesn't see, when the parent yells, "STOP" it is for the child's own safety that he/she obeys. I feel that this is much like our God. Sometimes he see's the car coming that we just don't see! When he tells us to STOP, we need to obey for our OWN safety.

Mommy Product Of The Day

One thing that I feel is ESSINTIAL for a new baby is a bouncy seat. The one I have is made by fisher price and you can buy it at Target and other retailers. The funny thing about this seat is... It's the ONE thing I didn't register for, but then one of my mom's friends who has 5 KIDS said that I HAD to have one of them, that it was the best thing ever! Now I am SO glad she got me one, because Caroline LOVES her bouncy seat. She takes naps in it, plays in it, and sometimes eats in it (because it is a good angle for bottle feeding if you take her out and burp her).

I am going to go now, and enjoy the end of my day off.


TOO MANY/TOO FEW Hours in a day!

Friday, June 18, 2010

Welcome back to the porch! Happy Friday to all! I can't begin to tell you how relieved I am that this hectic week is over and that I survived it! I am having the hardest time waking up in the mornings earlier than what is completely required in order to get ready in time ( sometimes not even in time). I have been stressing SOOO much about getting everything done that I need to get done, but after such a busy week, I feel like I have a better perspective on the 24 hours God gives us each day.

Prior to this week (and even during it), I kept thinking to myself, " I wish I didn't need sleep, I wish that I could just stay awake because I need those extra 6 hours ( 4 or 5 sometimes when Miss. Priss doesn't sleep) to get more DONE!?" And I think this is probably a common thought process among working mothers. This desire was totally reasonable to me up until this afternoon, and then it just sort of HIT me.

The way that I feel right now as I blog, watch baby Caroline sleep, and get ready to go out with one of my good girlfriends, is EXACTLY why God didn't want us working 24/7. I feel relaxed, relieved, at peace, thankful, and happy. Feelings all of which you don't usually feel when you are working and doing and moving and going and coming. God gave us day/sun, so that we may see to do our work. He shut off the lights and gave us night/ the moon, so that we would no longer BE ABLE to work and toil and stress ( as he knows our human desires to be productive all the time). He calls us to rest after hard work, just as he did on the 7th day! If we were to be doing things ALL the time, our lives would be one long day. But instead each day has a beginning and an ending as should our toil.

This blog is just a brainstorm of the thoughts that I have had this afternoon, so bare with me if it doesn't flow much. All I know is I change my mind: I am HAPPY that there is a time each day that I can shut off the lights and close my eyes and stop working and thinking and stressing. That way I am ready for the next set of 24 hours! ;)

Have a happy weekend!

Mind Games

Thursday, June 17, 2010

It's that time of night again....10:00 PM and I have just now found 5 minutes to myself. Putting Caroline to bed is one of my favorite times of the night but it seems to last FOR EV ER. But, none the less, she if finally asleep and as I type I am listening to her breath like Darth Vader over the baby monitor, holding my breath that she doesn't wake up every time I hear her stir.

Reflecting over my day, well the past week or so really, I finally have come to the conclusion that often times we get an idea in our heads, and then begin to shape our emotions ( the way we feel) around that idea. Okay, for instance, It has been lately that I have noticed how independent I really am, and recognizing that has made me irritated with things that challenge my Independence ( ie. people helping me do things) . When in reality I don't mind being helped, but that contradicts the idea of Independence in my mind, causing me to get agitated by the act that otherwise wouldn't bother me. It's as though I have convinced myself: Because I am independent, anything that someone else does for me WILL bother me.

Realizing this ridiculously confusing concept is like acknowledging being an alcoholic, it's the first step to improvement. Having such a helpful guy in my life is something I should be GREATFUL for, not challenged by. I have got to learn to stop trying to be "Super Women", and realize I can't do everything. God didn't intend for us to live this life alone...THUS why he mad a companion for Adam, Eve. It is important for both my sanity and my relationships that I let go a little bit and let other people help me out.

Thank you to everyone who has tried and continues to try and lend me a helping hand. I'm excited to show you that I CAN be appreciative.

Mommy Review Of The Day

Today my most loved item is....

The Adena and Anais Swaddle Wrap Set from Target.

This set comes with four swaddle blankets that I found to be the perfect " Night Night" blanket for Caroline. They have Gender Specific patterns on some of them ( Caroline's are pink and brown). My favorite part about these natural blankets are how light weight they are. They are PERFECT for covering little ones up in the Texas heat during the summer when you don't want them to get too chilly with the fan on. They are super soft and very comfy.

I would give this product 5 out of 5.

Behind the Blinds

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

As a first blog entry, I guess it would be appropriate to introduce myself and open the blinds of the windows of my world so that you may see inside the day to day life in which I lead.

My name is Courtney. ( I find it humorous that I feel somewhat stuck after saying that....)

... I was a week old Freshman at the University of Oklahoma when my whole world changed. The week before school started I found out that I was going to have a baby. Eighteen years old ( at the time), dating a guy I never intended on spending the rest of my life with, and with a world of possiblities in front of me... and suddenly everything froze as I was forced to make decissions no eighteen year old should have to make. While deciding to keep the baby was no problem for me, the decission to stay at OU for the fall semester was a challenging one. But in the end I found that to be the best decission, with a plan of moving back home at Christmas break. About 3 months later I broke up with my boyfriend ( the baby's father), after realizing that this was no game, and I wasn't going to play "house" with a man I never even loved. I just KNEW that God had something greater in store for me. I was right.

During the next seven months all the following happened by the grace of God: I turned Nineteen ( wahoo), I finished a semester at OU with a 3.8 average ( through the morning sickness and all), moved home, got an AMAZING job for my situation, and then on April 13, 2010 gave birth to my wonderful baby girl, Caroline Jo.

God has used Caroline to change my life and I want to share each day that he gives me with you. By the power of my testimony I pray that the Lord touches some special place in your heart as well. Maybe this is a chane of life changing events for you. God through Caroline, Caroline through me....to you.
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