The Difference Between My Words and My Actions

Friday, January 20, 2012

Having a high appreciation for words and written literature, it breaks my heart to say this, but something I have been slowly realizing is that sometimes words just aren't enough. They just simply are not enough! I think the hidden reason behind this truth lies in our over and under commitments to things.

I believe that most of us truly mean WELL by the words we say. Most people speak words they believe as truth, and speak words that they feel properly reflect their view of the world. I would also say, that most people speak words with intentions of backing them up with action 90% of the time. That 10% however, can change an entire situation, and ultimately, the way others perceive you.

My boyfriend made a comment earlier this week that keeps ringing in my head , "Do what you say you are going to do." While he and I have superb communication (which is a MUST when you do the long distance thing), following our words through with action is COMPLETELY vital to building a trusting and respectful relationship. If he can't believe I'm going to call when I say I will call, then eventually he will loose respect for my words on bigger commitments too.
The commitment part is key to being ABLE to follow through with what you say. When we are OVER committed in life. It makes it extremely difficult to find the time to do all of the things that we say we are going to. It's not from a lack of desire to support your words with actions, but rather a lack of time and energy. You simply can not promise to do everything you are presented with. Taking on too much will result in broken promises, and ultimately a bad rap for being "flaky".


Under commitment can cause one to become just as unreliable. When we are not fully invested in our decisions to do something, then it's much more likely we will make excuses to prevent us from accomplishing the task we have promised. It's very easy to say "yes", realize you really didn't WANT to do what you committed to, and in turn fail to perform based on the lack of desire. If you don't want to do something, or are not committed to attempting with your best effort, don't waste everyone's time by giving them hope of unrealistic expectations. This will ultimately cause a sacrifice in character on your part, and lack of faith from those involved in your life.

Lets put it simply: "Do what you say you are going to do." It is better to say you will not, and to follow through, than to commit to doing, and failing to act. (...and you can quote me).

My mother as always said, "It's not what you meant, it's how it came across." Your intentions can be wonderful, your words can be seemingly sincere, but until you put some feet behind your mouth, people will not trust your opinions, thoughts, feelings, or ideas.

"Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes', and your 'No', 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one."

Matthew 5:37

May your actions speak so loud, that I can not hear what you are saying!

...and that my Dear, was all she wrote...

Faithful Self

Monday, January 9, 2012

Yesterday during the first church sermon I heard in 2012 on "I Quit", my pastor gave us a question to ask ourselves daily:

"Are you being faithful to the self God has given you?"

It isn't uncommon for me to enjoy a sermon, ponder a few points, and then concern myself with Sunday's lunch venue, facing the week unequipped with any real wisdom. For some reason, however, one of the most premature thoughts of my day this morning was this question.

I really think if most of us are honest with ourselves in answering that, the response would be something along the lines of : "eh, uh, sorta, sometimes, most of the time, I think." But that answer is not good enough for me. I want to know that I am fully faithful to the life I have. I want to be SURE that I am being filled both spiritually and emotionally, as well as physically and mentally, to the brim of my cup.

"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
Proverbs 31:30

It is easy to get caught up in the daily happenings, and the endless responsibilities and commitments, but in the end, the important thing is the preservation of the relationships you have in your life, including the one you have with yourself. For honoring your self worth, honors the Lord. He knows the number of hairs on your head and deems you more "Valuable than many sparrows" which Matthew 10:29-31 clearly portrays that not even a sparrow "falls to the ground" without his attention.

In caring about ourselves we are displaying our love for him and his creation. There is a fine line between loving ourselves and being "in love" with ourselves. I vow to love myself in 2012. Love myself so that I am CAPABLE of loving those around me. Love myself so I am WILLING to see God work in my life. Love myself so I am UNDERSTANDING of how much of an honor it is to be loved when you deserve it the least.

You don't have to wait for the first of the year, or the first of a month to start asking yourself that same question. Today: make sure you begin a faithful relationship with yourself. Make sure that you manage your time, money, energy, and emotions wisely. Make sure that you "invite" the Lord into your conversations with yourself about your future as "wise council". After all, the best way to SPOIL yourself, is by following his perfect guidance towards an inconceivable future.

... and that my Dear, was all she wrote...
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