The Difference Between My Words and My Actions

Friday, January 20, 2012

Having a high appreciation for words and written literature, it breaks my heart to say this, but something I have been slowly realizing is that sometimes words just aren't enough. They just simply are not enough! I think the hidden reason behind this truth lies in our over and under commitments to things.

I believe that most of us truly mean WELL by the words we say. Most people speak words they believe as truth, and speak words that they feel properly reflect their view of the world. I would also say, that most people speak words with intentions of backing them up with action 90% of the time. That 10% however, can change an entire situation, and ultimately, the way others perceive you.

My boyfriend made a comment earlier this week that keeps ringing in my head , "Do what you say you are going to do." While he and I have superb communication (which is a MUST when you do the long distance thing), following our words through with action is COMPLETELY vital to building a trusting and respectful relationship. If he can't believe I'm going to call when I say I will call, then eventually he will loose respect for my words on bigger commitments too.
The commitment part is key to being ABLE to follow through with what you say. When we are OVER committed in life. It makes it extremely difficult to find the time to do all of the things that we say we are going to. It's not from a lack of desire to support your words with actions, but rather a lack of time and energy. You simply can not promise to do everything you are presented with. Taking on too much will result in broken promises, and ultimately a bad rap for being "flaky".


Under commitment can cause one to become just as unreliable. When we are not fully invested in our decisions to do something, then it's much more likely we will make excuses to prevent us from accomplishing the task we have promised. It's very easy to say "yes", realize you really didn't WANT to do what you committed to, and in turn fail to perform based on the lack of desire. If you don't want to do something, or are not committed to attempting with your best effort, don't waste everyone's time by giving them hope of unrealistic expectations. This will ultimately cause a sacrifice in character on your part, and lack of faith from those involved in your life.

Lets put it simply: "Do what you say you are going to do." It is better to say you will not, and to follow through, than to commit to doing, and failing to act. (...and you can quote me).

My mother as always said, "It's not what you meant, it's how it came across." Your intentions can be wonderful, your words can be seemingly sincere, but until you put some feet behind your mouth, people will not trust your opinions, thoughts, feelings, or ideas.

"Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes', and your 'No', 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one."

Matthew 5:37

May your actions speak so loud, that I can not hear what you are saying!

...and that my Dear, was all she wrote...


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