"If 'Plan A' didn't work. The alphabet has 25 more letters. Stay Cool."

Tuesday, July 31, 2012


Lately, the concept of PESSIMISM vs. OPTIMISM has weighed on my mind. Really comprehending that the population is truly divided into these two categories is somewhat mind boggling. My boyfriend will think this post is about him, Mr. Pessimist. While we do talk about that often, it's certainly not what has inspired me to write about it
( he won't believe that statement either ;) )

I like to consider myself an optimist. I'm pretty good at seeing the silver lining in every situation, and can usually cultivate reasons to be positive much quicker than I let negativity filter my brain. Does this mean I'm oblivious to reality? Not at all, optimism is a choice. It's a decision to live this life with joy for what could be, and reject the fear of things that may never come to pass.

On the other hand, the pessimist of the world are not to be frowned upon. It is in thanks that I say, the pessimist most often contain the impulsive actions of the optimist. I know this to be true in mine and Ryan's relationship. We have a very neutral ground that we tend to meet on, as I usually can excite him about things he would otherwise doubt in, and he urges me to proceed with caution when things are yet to be settled.

In between these two ideas, someone threw out there that there was such a group of us called "realist". Personally, I don't believe in this group. By definition according to Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Realism- Concern for fact or reality and rejection of the impractical and visionary.

Here's why realism is a joke in all senses of the word, realism is "concern for fact or reality" - people defy the impossible ALL THE TIME. We are a world of record breakers, discovery finders, inventors, over achievers, consistently defining what "reality" entails. If being a realist means believing in what people have already accomplished, then thank goodness I don't fall into that pit. I simply believe Pessimist and Realist are comparable if not the same when it comes to perspective. After all, the pessimist only doubts, because he has seen failure.


Are you born into one of these 2 1/2 groups ( notice I gave you realist a small space in my world), you may wonder? I don't think so. I think the single thing that determines whether the glass is half full or half empty is purely how you handle disappointment.

If your fear of failure comes from how much pain or humiliation you will suffer if you do not achieve your goal, then by nature you will assume the life of a pessimist, cautiously navigating life, avoiding many pitfalls, likely saving yourself some disappointment as well as some financial mistakes, but often anxious, un inspired, and lacking passion for things that can disappoint.

If you find that disappointment stands no chance against you, that you would rather live a life trying and failing than wondering if you ever could, then a life of pessimism is unavoidable for you. You will "find 10,000 ways that won't work" without ever failing. You will often have to change plans, adjust directions, and experience disappointment, but your life will not be about the destination. It will most certainly ALWAYS be about the journey.

To Both I Say, "To be sure of hitting the Target, shoot first, and whatever your hit, call it the Target."



...and that my Dear, was all she wrote...


 
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